“I have to be capable of more success than this,” You say over and over to yourself. “I know, I’m capable of a higher level of success than what I’m currently experiencing.”
Be honest. Are you?
Look, we all want to be super successful in life. I don’t think anyone has ever said, “I could use less success in my life, it’s become quite a burden.”
Going through life, wondering why others are having so much more success than you, while you’re stuck in neutral — can be pretty painful. Sure, you don’t want to compare yourself to others and their success. But you do! And, while this is a mistake, that’s another topic for another day.
But there’s nothing wrong with having a desire to take your success to the next level.
There is something wrong with not taking action to find the next level of success in your life.
So, if you’re tired of living life, looking at other’s success as if it’s something unachievable to what you’re capable of doing in your own life, then take a look in the mirror, and see what you can improve.
I know, not the first thing you want to hear, but it’s true. You need to be patient with yourself. But let me be clear on where your patients must be applied.
Results take time.
Money, accomplishments, more clients, more fans, etc. — these take time. Time you don’t want to spend but don’t have as much control over as you think. So, buckle up, it’s not going to happen overnight.
Pick someone you admire. Go ahead, pick whoever you want. Now, go and do some research on that person’s success and then let me know if they were an “overnight success.”
Want to build a business? Move up the corporate ladder? Grow your income by 10x? Fantastic!
How much time do you have?
Look, I’m not telling you to quit shooting for the moon. Maybe you are that one in a million shooting star who can take your dream from 0 to 200 in less than a year — but it’s unlikely my friend.
And that’s ok. You need to be ok with that.
Where you don’t have to be patient, where you shouldn’t be patient, and where you better not be patient — is in the work. The work that’s necessary for you to achieve the level of success you are pursuing — the work that matters the most to your success — the work on yourself.
Prepare now for who you need to become to reach the level of success that you are pursuing. Become the person that is even capable of achieving the success you are working towards in life.
One of, if not the most extraordinary, and rare personal mindsets that you can develop is the ability to be objective. Any genuinely great investor has learned, if not, mastered their ability to be objective about their investments.
They are objective about companies they invest in, and they have to make their analysis all along the way, centered in their fundamental ability to be objective, above all things. If they make investments based on what seems cool, looks cool, or what they hope will happen — it will result in complete failure.
You’re going to have to do the same thing with your life. If you don’t, or just aren’t willing to take this step, then you will never find the next level of success that you seek.
So be objective about it all. Be objective about your process and whether or not it’s working. Ask yourself honest questions and look for real answers that lead you to the truth.
- Does my work ethic match my goals?
- Am I willing to make the sacrifices that it will take to reach my goals?
- Am I the person I need to be, to achieve this level of a goal?
- Am I working hard on controlling what I can control?
Be honest with yourself and get to the truth. Not because you need to pile on yourself, but so you can get to the bottom of this and get to work on the changes you need to make.
Have you ever seen that ridiculous exercise where you email the five most prominent people in your life and ask them where you could improve as a person, partner, or employee? I’m not dismissing the whole thought process, it comes from the right place, but it just seems like it’s packed with a lot of potential dynamite.
The truth is that you shouldn’t be so blind to your self-awareness that you aren’t able to make a pretty darn good guess at what those comments would look like if you did participate in the exercise. Are you that blind to your flaws, weaknesses, and struggles in your life and profession?
Be honest. Where do you struggle? What are your weaknesses? What parts of your life, career, and relationships could you use some significant improvement?
It’s ok to admit them.
You don’t have any? Well, there’s your first problem, right there.
We all have weaknesses and things we can improve upon, and it just comes down to putting in the work. Even the most successful, wealthy, and “near-perfect” individuals in the world have weaknesses.
Develop a level of self-awareness that can spot these weaknesses and improve upon them, on your own.
Belief In Yourself
You must have undeniable confidence in yourself if you are going to be super successful. It’s a necessity for your ability to create success and chase your dreams.
Without it — you should forget your goals and dreams. Without it — it’s useless to be chasing anything.
In fact, you’ll have to have an almost ridiculous amount of belief in yourself, because nobody else will. Sure, people will always be there for support and to believe in you.
But, believing in you and believing in your dream are two different things. Don’t take this personal, because it’s not.
But you also can’t expect someone to believe in your dream the way you do, with the same intensity and determination — it’s not their dream, it’s yours!
You don’t need permission or acceptance of your dream. You need to have an unwavering belief in yourself and your dream and be willing to believe in it to the point that looks almost foolish to outsiders.
Be Willing to Fail
Failure has gotten a bad reputation. We tend to think that failure is something that we should altogether avoid and never get near it. Similar to that social distancing practice you have right now.
But just like that great friend or family member you haven’t seen in a month, success will never be achievable without standing near failure.
Yes, there are a lot of people who never seem to fail. Most likely, you just don’t see it, or they aren’t pushing their own lives enough. Either way, it’s up to you to be willing to pursue your success with the willingness to take failure along for the ride.
Get comfortable with failure lounging around you — and not wanting to leave. While it may be a nuisance, it’s also a clear sign you are taking on the challenge that you should be seeking.
Whatever you are after in life, you must be willing to go all-in, play full out, and risk it all to achieve it. Wondering if you might fail will not be useful during this time — so, just ignore it and move forward.
Choose Pain Over Comfort
Have you ever gone out for a 3-mile run, and halfway through started hearing that voice say, “just stop, this hurts?” If you have, you’ve most likely listened to that voice at least once, and quit after you heard it.
I hope you’ve also had those times you told that voice to shut up, and you got through that 3-mile run, all the better for it.
Which time is more rewarding?
The times you quit a mile into the run? Or, the times you keep going — despite the pain, exhaustion, and physical fatigue — and gutted out the 3 miles?
Just about everything you could ever accomplish in life goes through pain and discomfort.
From finding the perfect spouse, landing your dream career, achieving your goals at work, or saving for your first home — all of these scenarios go through pain points or times when you did something or went through something you would rather not do.
So, why is it that when it comes to pursuing the next level of success, we aren’t willing to go through the pain?
Whatever your reason for avoiding this pain, learn to ignore it and accept the fact that just about every great thing you have in your life came into existence on the other side of pain and discomfort.
Think about the look that was on Michael Jordan’s face when the Bulls would come out of a timeout at the end of a game. The whole world was watching him about to take the last shot. Everyone knew — including the other team — that he was going to take the shot. All the pressure in the world is resting on his shoulders.
Look at the focus in his eyes and on his face. You can almost read it like he’s saying, “This is my shot and my game, you can bring anything in the world at me, and I’m still gonna make this shot.”
That’s the level of focus you need if you are going to take your success to the next level. Undeniable, intensified, get-out-of-my-way — focus.
Challenges, obstacles, and crazy unforeseen things will come at you and never stop. You have to decide: are these excuses or just little nuisance in my way?
The average use this as an opportunity to latch on to an excuse.
Super successful people see it for what it is: just another obstacle on the way to their success.
There are zero reasons in the world why you can’t live at the super successful level that you have envisioned in your head. Zero.
You’ve got everything you need to make it happen, and you have all you will ever need to accomplish what you want to achieve.
Will it take work? Will it take strict action on yourself and work on who you are to become?
And that’s pretty much where the road divides itself between the super successful and the rest.
Are you willing to do the work and develop the mindsets that will take you to the next level?
But is it not worth it?