What’s it all worth to you?

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Have you ever built such a focus and drive to accomplish something in your life that it consumes all your thoughts?

I heard a story not too long ago about an individual leading their organization in sales. The leaders of the organization were telling their story as motivation to the rest of the sales team. This individual was highly motivated and ambitious, which we all need in life, but the story told, made me cringe.

What was highlighted the most, or even praised, was that they worked 12-hour days? The organization leader also had to put a rule in place to keep this individual from texting colleagues and clients beyond these 12 hours. …

We all have them.

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Have you ever had one of those weeks that just about broke you? You’re frustrated, irritated, and angry about everything that has taken place. You begin to believe what can go wrong will go wrong.

That problem with your client became worse instead of better. You think you have a sweet deal lined up, and at the last minute, your buyer backs out. You know what you want to write, and it makes sense in your head, but in the end, it just isn’t coming out on the page.

To make matters worse, you’re tired and exhausted from the stress of the week. You’re super frustrated and angry about the week’s events and results. And oh yeah, your child isn’t feeling well, you need a new battery in your car, and to top it all off, your relaxing weekend plans just got derailed. …

Take your personal growth to a place that separates you from where you are today.

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Personal growth in life is more important than achievement. Without it, you’ll never reach the higher levels of yourself.

Personal growth is a constant and consistent development of skills, mindsets, and behaviors that will keep you growing forward over and over and over again.

Why don’t most people continue to grow in their lives?

Whether it’s comfort, contentment, or a lack of desire to improve — many people stop growing and evolving in their lives. Which, if you aren’t careful, can happen to any of us, and the results are scary.

Phil Knight, a co-founder of Nike, wrote about growth in his memoir, Shoe…

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Let’s put all the compulsions, fears, bad habits, and personal crap we’ve never dealt with aside, and let’s get real.

Are you honest with yourself?

Even better, let’s ask,

“Am I being the person I want to be?”

Am I making the kinds of decisions that I’m proud of? Am I spending my days acting and living by who I desire to be?

It’s easy in life to just get towed along. By the universe, by fortune, by our capabilities and responsibilities. Or, worse, by our pain or cravings or fears. …

“Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”

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There is a tradition as old as time: we learn from our elders. As time goes on, this tradition stays the same.

The elderly possess sage advice, if we are willing to listen, that gives us more wisdom, more understanding, and more insight on how to live a better and more fulfilling life.

We would be smart to listen or read. From the bestselling book, Tuesday’s With Morrie, Morrie Schwartz provides us with wisdom and lessons on living. His contribution to life and those around him was evident until the end. …

“You become what you give your attention to.” ― Epictetus

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Epictetus said he liked to monitor his self-improvement daily, while others had different things they want to tend to.

Most people tend to their social media, likes, emails, and trivial issues of the day. But, if you want to improve your life — relationships, career, earnings, happiness — you need to treat your self-improvement as a priority. It affects all that you do.

Self-improvement is essential to anyone who wants to grow in their life. Anyone seeking to become more in life. Whether in their job, their roles at home, or in their community.

Self-improvement is a responsibility that shouldn’t be taken lightly and should be tended to by us all. …

You must develop the ability to view the past in a way that empowers your future.

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How you frame past events in your life is extremely impactful to your present and prospective self. We have an extremely damaging habit of framing our past experiences in life in a harmful way.

Marcus Aurelius provides some good advice:

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

The stories you tell yourself and how you perceive them in your head—also known as Narrative Identity—will be extremely damaging to your future if you don’t frame them correctly. …

Assuming you don’t want to quit, here are some ways to live to see another day, and move forward with your dream.

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Some days you feel like the work you do is great, inspiring, and is truly something to be proud of. Other days, probably the majority, you feel like you couldn’t pronounce ‘good work’ if you had to.

If you’re trying to make it: as an entrepreneur, artist, writer, or creator of any kind — this probably feels all too familiar.

You try. You show up. You do the work, however lousy it feels or looks. …

“Anyone who isn’t embarrassed by who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.” — Alain de Botton

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I think it’s safe to say none of us want a repeat of 2020, in 2021.

It’s time to close the books on another year and hit the reset button — quite possibly the most anticipated reset of all time.

A New Year brings new energy and new hope for the future. We all need it after 2020.

So, what’s going to change within you when the clock strikes midnight on December 31st?

A New Year will not translate into a New You unless you take bold actions towards your future through eliminating behaviors that have held you back in the past. …

“Freedom is the only worthy goal in life. It is won by disregarding things that lie beyond our control.” ― Epictetus

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You lie awake at night, thinking about all the things you must do the next day.

Work. Kids. Dinner. Bills.

Chores around the house. Book the summer vacation. Plan the birthday party. Finally, find the time to get together with a great friend.

At that moment, it feels like the list is a mile long. The list keeps growing, and the time is shrinking.

Worry and stress start to take over, and the next thing you know, you’ve been awake in bed for over an hour.

On top of those concerns, you are also replaying that conversation with a client, hoping that they understood what you meant and aren’t upset. Or, you’re worried about your friend and her husband, who just received terrible news about his health. …


Chase Arbeiter

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