Most people fail in life because they don’t see success for what it is: the ability to take action towards the outcome of your choice.
Obstacles, setbacks, challenges, and failures aside — successful people move through it.
Look at any successful person you have ever looked up to or admired, and you’ll see adversity — of some kind — somewhere in their story. And while it’s easy to look at these people as perfect models of success, it’s their success that creates the image of perfection.
Why is becoming successful so damn hard? Why does it feel so painful, so unattainable, and so far away?
Or, are we fooling ourselves? Are we overthink success in our own lives?
So often in life, we make strides in life when we eliminate things holding us back. Bad habits create more room for good habits. Unhealthy lifestyles, once removed, become healthy lifestyles. Disempowering mindsets, once converted, become empowering mindsets.
Success is no different. When you remove the mental baggage that is so easy to carry around, it creates so much more room in your life for success.
It doesn’t mean you’ll be perfect, or all your ideas will stick, or that you blow up overnight. Nah. That’s not how this works.
But, you will start to see a difference in how you approach your work, how you see difficulties or obstacles in your way. Things that once set you back, put you in retreat, or delayed your next move will no longer hold the weight they once did.
Instead, you’ll see through the failures for what they are, temporary setbacks along the way. You’ll no longer expect a perfect road or a timeline without errors, trials, or setbacks. You’ll expect it. You’ll stand prepared for it. You’ll move quickly through it and not take the time to stop and reflect so much as to learn and grow as soon as possible.
When you start taking command of the success you seek in life, you’ll stop doing these three things.
Stop Wondering What Others Think
If you’re not careful, you’ll allow every single good idea you’ve ever had to be judged by a jury of people. In your head, you’ve created a panel of characters who are assessing everything you say, think, or do. The problem is it’s not real — it’s in your head.
All of us go through this stage in anything we do where we wonder if it’s a good idea or not. We judge it. We analyze it to the nth degree, figuring out all the angles and whether it’s a good idea or a bad idea. Then, to make things worse, we allow a made-up group of people to place their opinions of our ideas into our heads.
Maybe those people do think your idea sucks. Perhaps, it is a horrible idea. But, if you always listen to this fictional board and jury of ideas and never move forward with confidence, ignoring what others think, you’ll never really know.
Which means you’ll never know if you were right or wrong. You’ll never know if you should’ve or shouldn’t have — which only leaves regret and unanswered questions.
When you finally decide to take complete command of your success in life, you’ll no longer worry about what others think. Not because you’re arrogant enough to believe every move you make is correct. Not because you think everyone else is wrong.
You’ve just decided to start putting your ideas out there in the world to be examined, analyzed, and talked about — good or bad — no matter the results. It’s the only real way you find success in life, unless you are just waiting around to hit the idea lottery.
Stop Seeking Perfection
Perfect ideas don’t exist. If that’s what you’re looking for, you might as well stop reading now and spend the afternoon hunting for a unicorn.
Did you know Steve Jobs had no intention of the iPhone becoming the thing that over 50% of the population essentially has attached to their hand? Facebook did not have grand visions of the whole world joining their network. Crazy, right?
So, that author you admire so much and think all his writing is so flawless didn’t have the same confidence in all his ideas when he started. He could probably name some failure along the way that you don’t know about. The same goes with the musician or athlete or entrepreneur who looks like they have it all figured out.
What they have is something you could have if you’re willing. Courage. Resilience. Commitment. Fortitude. A never-ending relentless pursuit to turn your dream, idea, company, or project into a success.
That’s what they did. They endured. They didn’t quit. They kept moving past the imperfection to become successful.
Tom Brady has 7 Superbowl rings. 13 seasons ended with him NOT winning the Superbowl. Do you know what makes him better? The work he puts into it, the years he doesn’t win it, and the courage he commits to keep coming back.
The same can be applied to your success in life. Every time you move past the imperfection of your craft or your work or a project — you gain another element of strength for pursuing your success. It’s another moment where you didn’t quit, give up, or pack it in. You endured.
Anyone willing to endure will find success. It’s just a matter of not seeking out perfection.
Stop Complicating Everything
Life is as complicated as you choose to make it.
Success doesn’t require extensive business plans or elaborately detailed schedules, or overly sophisticated systems. That’s not to say these things don’t bring success as well. It’s just not necessary.
Simplicity. Execution. Effectiveness. Consistency.
These are what you should focus on when you want to achieve goals and push your pursuits forward.
Can you put your success plan and what it looks like into one page? One paragraph? One sentence?
Don’t overthink success. Stop needling through your ideas.
Take action. Push forward, through failure, through setbacks, obstacles, and anything that gets in your way.
Don’t even allow yourself to complicate matters beyond taking action and persevering through it.
There is a time to think and strategize and plan to the best of your ability. Don’t skip this. But don’t take up residency in these places, either.
Your success is going to be far more straightforward than you’ve played it out in your head, so you might as well start and be willing to show up and persevere through any challenges that come up along the way.
Taking command of your success is incredibly important to your future. It’s up to you. If you don’t take ownership in driving your success forward, who will? Whose job is it to ensure that you are successful in life?
When you determine that it’s time, the moment has arrived that you will no longer settle for anything less than the outcomes you desire, then you will no longer allow these three things to hold you back.
You’ll stop doing these three things, mainly because you realize the counterpoint to them doesn’t matter. It’s irrelevant to your success.
Have you taken steps to take control of your success?
What are you waiting for?